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My New Book Is Out!

…and it’s all about the inside job it takes to not only get the weight off, but find lasting peace and confidence.

 

 

 



 

Ask any sailor and they’ll concur: when a ship is in distress, it’s of absolutely no use to fuss about the deck, mopping up the puddles of water and rearranging the deck chairs. Better to put energy into the bowels of the ship’s epicenter and fix its engine and/or patch up the gaping hole that’s taking on water and causing the vessel to lumber and sink.

Sounds perfectly logical, right? Then why, do we continue to fuss over the exterior of a person rather than look inward to discover what the real problem is and how to solve it? The short answer: it’s less painful to prescribe a diet, or new hair color, new wardrobe, or a quick touch-up at the plastic surgeon. Less painful and probing for sure, but far less effective.

I can tell you for sure that dieting as a remedy to weight gain has zero efficacy. Zero. Worse than zero because everytime I’ve undertaken it it has resulted in regain plus more. So, after sheer burnout which left me with an utter inability to give dieting one more chance, I put the ship’s engine in reverse and headed in another direction. Specifically, I dove inward. I had to. How else would the wounds of bullying, size bigotry, and isolation heal?  Not via calorie-counting or counting fat grams, I can assure you.

And that, my friends, is how my fourth book came to be. My first three works were about cooking (healthy, delicious food, BTW). “The Untended Soul” is all about coping.

 

 

I’ll be the first to admit the content may not be everyone’s cup of tea. Heck, it wasn’t mine for many years. But if you’ve A) had enough of the dieting hamster wheel, and B) suspect you may have been taken for a ride by the industry and have wasted unquantifiable amounts of time and money on a pile of nothing-burgers, you may want to crack my latest book. Or at least read the back cover. One of the reviews on Amazon describes it as “required reading for emotional eaters.” If you feel this may be you, well, you know what to do. All it takes is a little willingness to try a different approach. Self-Inquiry is easier than you think…once you’ve agreed to let your guard down.

My weight-loss success story is well documented, and includes a gluten-free and dairy-free revamping of my eating habits and plenty of DDPYOGA workouts. But guess what preceded all of that? Yup. The dive inward. And you know what I found. Gold…pure gold that can’t be found in the world of externals. It’s yours to have…

 

She was in there all along…and I finally found her

 

 

And a BIG Thank You to the very talented Robert McLearren, who put this book together, designed it, and gave it FLAIR! He has created the look of every one of my books and I absolutely would have no books without him. He’s also an amazing artist and painter of pet portraits. Send him an I-Phone photo of your dog or cat, you’ll be astounded at what he can do. Makes a great Christmas gift!  Thank You Robert.

 

 

Our Sophia: I-phone photo left; Robert’s rendering on the right – phenomenal!



Women’s World Magazine Telling My Transformation Story!

Hello World! After a much-needed summer hiatus which included, travel, relaxation, and some lake-side teaching of DDPY, I’m back with a BANG! After months of planning, writing, primping, plotting, and prep…THIS happens today! 

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Women’s World Magazine is telling my transformation story! The issue is on newsstands today through Sept. 12 – so excited and grateful! A big thank you to Bauer Publishing, Alayne Curtiss of Make Me Fabulous in Saratoga Springs, N.Y. and Find Your Moxie and Gusto for making the magic happen!

The main thing I want to get across here is: it is never too late, and there is always Hope! Run to your nearest supermarket or bookstore and get your issue today. Thanks for reading! XO

Want the weight off yesterday? I know…

“But I want to get the weight off…now! Or at least soon. As soon as possible. What can you do for me?”
 
It’s a very common request from clients and readers and believe me, I not only understand it, I have LIVED it for decades.

Me doing an existential WTF to the Universe…

During the years I was awash in binge-eating and ignoring the messages my heart and soul was valiantly trying to tell me, I’d emerge from a year or so of unmitigated eating and running from reality with a resolve born of both panic and disgust: I’VE GOT TO GET THIS FREAKIN’ WEIGHT OFF!

Loading Up on Food, Tamping Down on the Anxiety

 
The problem was, I hadn’t a clue how to go about it in a rational and lasting way. The strict diets and food trends I grabbed onto (low-fat, high-fat, no-carb, low-carb, all liquids…you get the picture) left me feeling sad, confused, and more stuck. So I went back to binge-eating to feel better. And 6 months to a year later, I’d ricochet back to the other extreme. In the interim, I’d do whatever I could to heal the inner wounds and pay attention (as much as I would allow a the time) to my heart and soul and what they really needed.
 
Turns out, they needed me to be present to, well, the present. And deal with whatever’s going on in as forthright a manner as I could. This is the abridged solution and it’s an existential artform I continue to perfect. Over the two decades I spent at 300 pounds +, I got better and better at being in the present moment and with being honest with myself and others.
 
And as cliche as it sounds, when my student-self was ready, the teacher, in the form of Diamond Dallas Page and #DDPYOGA, appeared. I knew what was required of me and I was ready to do it. And I knew what was required to keep the weight off and I continue to agree to do it. Not perfectly because that was never the goal anyway. 
 
But when I stopped pinning all hopes for happiness on #weightloss and began to pay attention to which way the compass was really pointing, the self-esteem went from a sapling to a beanstalks that would have made Jack proud.

The Lotus begins in the mud, deep beneath the surface. It takes a long time to reach the light and bloom, but once it does, it is a beautiful and immutable strong blossom.

If I can convince one or a few of you not to be hard on yourselves and find ways to appreciate and nourish yourselves, a little at a time, then my journey will have been that much more worth it.

Happy and Healthy

The Past Does Not Determine The Future

From the start, I was labeled because of my weight. The chubby girl who was teased by classmates was put on her first diet at age 9 and grew into the fat teenager who curled up with a tray of brownies on prom night. Eventually, the isolated and embittered teen became the obese adult who spent her time in one of two ways: burying her pain with covert visits to the nearest drive-thru or trying to solve it all with the latest diet. Such was my life until the day in January 2009 when I stepped on the scale and learned my weight had climbed to 345 pounds.



Greatist.com recently published a short list of strategies that have helped me keep 180 pounds off for nearly a decade. There’s so much corruption in the diet industry. By being so entrenched in it for most of my life, I learned how to circumvent it. We all know (even if we don’t want to believe it sometimes) that there’s no magic answer. It takes self-inquiry, brutal honesty, and effort. 

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It can be a bewildering maze of options and promises to say the least…made even more daunting if you’re starting out with no guidance. That’s where my decades of trial and error come in. I offer one-on-one support from someone who’s been there. It’s how I got to where I am today – no one goes it alone. Don’t want a full-blown coaching package? Sign up for a 30-minute Q&A. Ask me anything. About food, feeling the feelings, gluten-free vs. grain-free, or which form of movement might be a fit. Bouncing back from years of zoning out with food isn’t easy, I’ll be the first to tell you…but it’s possible.

 

Making room for dessert…and Tangerines

Every now and then, I’ll rip open a bag of gluten-free cake mix and decide to make a sweet finale for a special-occasion meal. Lately I’ve been given to paleo desserts made from almond or coconut flour, but sometimes, I just want the taste and texture of a cake derived from white flour, no doubt in part because of embedded childhood memories.

 

Such was the case on Easter. I had a bag of Bob’s Red Mill Gluten-Free Vanilla Cake Mix just waiting for a purpose. My pantry is always stocked with vanilla and chocolate gluten-free cake mix in the event of birthdays that sneak up on me, or impromptu company stopping by for a visit. What says hospitality like fresh cake…right?  In addition to my cake-mix arsenal, I had tangerines…lots of them…and it got me thinking.

 

 

Why not put the magic of my Vitamix to use and invent a fruit-tinged cake that no one had ever had before. If you don’t have a Vtamix, I highly recommend you invest in one. They are remarkable in their ability to blend things like cauliflower, tangerines, even nuts, into utter smoothness. It is because of the Vitamix I eat vegetables on a regular basis – I love ’em as long as they’re pureed into a creamy soup!

 

Because it was a holiday, I went all the way. Why imbue just the cake with fresh tangerines when I could do the same thing with the frosting? The result was hypnotic. Heavenly. Jaw-droppingly good. So here you go, a magically simple recipe that will set tongues not only wagging, but begging for more. And bonus: this cake has some genuine nutrition to it, and no artificial colors! How great is that?

 

 

Tangerine Cake

Cake Ingredients:

1 bag of Bob’s Red Mill Gluten-Free Vanilla Cake Mix

3 tangerines, peeled and sectioned

Frosting ingredients:

2 cans of coconut milk, refrigerated for at least two hours, or overnight

3 tangerines

 

Instructions:

Preheat oven to 350.

Follow instructions on the cake mix bag. In a Vitamix or blender blend the tangerines until completely smooth. Pour into bowl of cake batter and mix thoroughly. Pour into round, sprayed cake pan and bake for 25-30 minutes. Leave in cooling oven for 10 minutes. Remove from oven and let cool completely before frosting.

To make frosting, open coconut milk cans and drain coconut water from cans, setting aside for drinking or adding to smoothies. Scrape fat into a medium-sized mixing bowl. Blend tangerines in Vitamix or blender until smooth. Add to coconut cream and beat with electric hand-mixer until fluffy. Remove cake from pan and place on a serving plate. Cover with frosting. Note: if weather is warm, keep cake refrigerated or frosting will disintegrate. 

 

 

Hope you saved room…

This one is for Great Lakes Collagen: